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May 25, 2014

So Not Okay: Mean Girl Makeover by Nancy Rue

A Tommy Nelson Giveaway!

Have you ever been bullied? Pushed around? Made fun of? Teased? I have. More times than I care to count. Kids, girls in particular, can be mean. But what should you do about it? You could:

A) Sit back and wait for it to go away on its own.

B) Give those bullies what they deserve–a spoonful of their own mean medicine.

C) Help become the solution just like the tribelet of girls from Gold Country Middle School.

If you said C (and I know you did), I think I have a book you’ll want to read.

What if they do all that stuff to us? That’s what I’m scared of.

~Ophelia, So Not Okay

so not okaySo Not Okay, by Nancy Rue, tells the tale of Tori, a sixth grader who learns to stand up for what’s right… no matter how difficult it is. At first Tori and her friends, Winnie and Ophelia, just want Kylie and her clique, aka The Wolf Pack, to leave them alone. When new girl Ginger starts getting picked on, Tori’s just glad she’s not the target…at first. But when things turn ugly, and I mean really ugly, Tori finds she can no longer sit on the sidelines while Ginger gets gum in her hair and moldy cookies in her locker.

Will Tori lose her friendships with Opelia and Winnie by helping the new girl? Will The Pack start targeting her when she stands up for what’s right? The only way to find out is to read So Not Okay by Nancy Rue, May’s Tween Book of The Month!

I thought I was gonna have a hard time thinking of something for Lydia’s assignment…because nobody was ever really mean to me…Until just now.

~ Tori, So Not Okay

Why do I like and recommend So Not Okay by Nancy Rue?

A) Real characters in real situations. Nancy Rue has the tween girl voice and vocab down. The characters are relatable, even for a mom like me who hasn’t been in middle school for well over a decade (okay, okay, it’s closer to two decades, but not quite). Reading So Not Okay by Nancy Rue reminded me of what it was like to be bullied and picked on. So Not Okay is more than good fiction. It’s a story that will empower you to join the battle against bullying.

B) Loved the cover. Cute and pink and girly. This book grabbed my inner tween and shouted, “Read me! Read me!” before I even had a chance to read the back cover blurb.

C) A book for moms and daughters. The great thing about Nancy Rue’s books are that they are great for moms and daughters to read together. Life is tough. Nancy writes of girls going through those hard growing up phases. I liked that I could enjoy this book as much as my daughters will when they’re old enough. It’s the type of story that will open up great discussions. It’s not just fiction, it’s fiction with a purpose!

Learn more about Nancy Rue, the author of So Not Okay and other great reads, by visiting her website at NancyRue.com or by connecting with her on Facebook and Twitter!

Win a copy of So Not Okay by Nancy Rue!

It’s your lucky day. Enter via the Rafflecopter through Saturday, May 31st. One random winner will be chosen to receive a copy of So Not Okay. The winner will be announced in my June newsletter (so make sure to subscribe using the form at the bottom of the page!). Thanks Tommy Nelson Mommy for sponsoring this great giveaway!

Tweens: Do you have experience with bullying? How does it make you feel? What do you think should be done about it?

Moms: How do you talk to your daughters about bullying? How can you help be a solution to the problem?

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Disclosure:

I received a copy of So Not Okay through the Tommy Nelson Mommy Program. I was not asked to write a positive review. All views and opinions expressed are solely and completely my own. I received no compensation other than a copy of the book featured in this post, which is mine to keep. This post also contains affiliate links. To learn more, please read my full policy.

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  1. Joyce and Norm says

    May 26, 2014 at 1:03 pm

    I see bullying happening at a younger and younger age, which is really sad. And maybe sadder still is that I think parents are adding fuel to the fire by trying to make sure their kid is “popular” and having the most “in” things no matter the cost. I have always talked to my girls about making sure to seek out those who seem to be lonely and make sure to include them in whatever activity is happening.

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    • Sara Ella says

      May 26, 2014 at 1:58 pm

      Great observation, Joyce! I try to do the same with my girls, reminding them to include everyone. When I see someone off by themselves it reminds me of how I was. It saddens me that many adults just stand by and watch it happen.

      Reply
  2. martyomenko says

    May 26, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    I work on teaching my boys to look out for those being picked on, but also, believing that they can laugh when others pick on them, they do not have to be weak, just because they are small and vulnerable looking. I got picked on and teased, and I learned to turn around and often laugh and say “Yeah, I am weird. I am okay with that. Why would I want to be like you?”

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    • Sara Ella says

      May 26, 2014 at 1:59 pm

      Hi Marty! Thanks for commenting! Great point about just accepting who you are:)

      Reply
  3. craftybooksheeps says

    May 29, 2014 at 10:07 am

    I already own the novel, but wanted to stop by and say I LOVE this novel! It was so deep and powerful! The sleepover I am hosting at my church for the girls I teach was inspired by the idea of this book for the things will talk about! So excited!

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    • Sara Ella says

      May 30, 2014 at 7:34 am

      I agree, Laura! The fact that a middle grade book affected me so deeply really says something about Nancy Rue as an author:)

      Reply
  4. fushiacat says

    June 1, 2014 at 3:54 am

    As a parent, I try to understand all the details of the problem. I attempt to work with my child & the school for a solution. I also pray, pray, pray.

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    • Sara Ella says

      June 1, 2014 at 10:11 am

      Those are great, fushiacat! Understanding their POV is huge. Thanks for taking time to comment:)

      Reply

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