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Sara Ella

July 3, 2014

Secret Keeper Girl Series

Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys (8 Great Dates for Dad and Daughters) Review & Giveaway!

About the Book…

boysIn Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys (8 Great Dates for Dads and Daughters), the Greshes add to the popular Secret Keeper Girl 8 Great Dates series by offering eight dates specifically designed for dads and daughters. Each one and a half hour date has a different focus but follows the same general format, including special audio messages, dad-daughter discussion time, and a fun challenge activity, including a wilderness adventure hike, a treasure hunt, and even, well, pulling a fun prank on friends. Each date focuses on topic such as helping your daughter begin to understand that boys are part of God’s plan, discovering the difference between true love and counterfeit love, and helping her learn to believe that her value comes from God, not from boys. The dates are designed for girls between 8-12.

b&dAbout the Authors…

Bob and Dannah Gresh are creators of the nation’s largest touring ministry for tween girls, Secret Keeper Girl, as well as authors of numerous books. The Greshes have three young adult children—Rob, Lexi and Autumn—and live on a farm in Pennsylvania.

Q&A with Bob and Dannah…

The Secret Keeper Girl books are so fun! How did you come up with the idea?

When my daughter Lexi was nine, the Lord was shifting my attention from teenagers to tweens. I began to realize that the risk to all the things we fear our children will experience as teenagers are actually eliminated and reduced when they are TWEENS! So, I gathered several of Lexi’s friends and we had fun learning about God’s standards of beauty and modesty and other related issues. It turned into this big ministry and moms love it!

Here’s a video that tells that story and shares how it all happened

In our culture today, shorts are getting shorter, tops are getting tighter and teens are dating at a younger age. What is the number one piece of advice you can give to moms, like me, with daughters at home?

Don’t cave! Mother’s intuition usually has very little to do with mom at all. It’s God’s Spirit nudging us to protect our children. If you feel uncomfortable with something “everyone else is doing”, don’t be afraid to stand against the crowd. Your daughter will survive being the “only one” who can’t do something or go somewhere. Mine did. Now at twenty years old, I hear Lexi advising tween girls and teens with the advice I gave to her much to her discontent. She sees the wisdom of it just a few years later.

I was a boy-crazy teen myself. What can I do as a mom to steer my girls away from that “train”?

Well, that’s why we wrote these new books on understanding boys. I really recommend you grab her a copy of “A Girls Guide To Understanding Boys” which is a self-help/bible study on the topic. In there, we talk about how it’s “normal” to want to be boy-crazy but normal isn’t always good or best or God’s plan. We challenge them to be “god-crazy” not “boy-crazy.”

Young Adult fiction is becoming more and more popular, not just for teens, but for adults as well. There’s a lot of trash out there. Are there any series or authors you can recommend to my teen readers?

I trust Melody Carlson for romantic fiction that’s God-honoring if that’s what a girl craves. I love Ted Dekker if you’re an adrenaline junkie. And after all these years, Piercing the Darkness by Frank Peretti is my favorite read to do with teen girls. It opens up some thrilling conversations about the battle between good and evil/God and Satan. It gets me praying every time.

I love the way your newest release is designed specifically for Dads and Daughters to read and do together. A Dad’s relationship with his girls is so different from a Mom’s. What do you think Dads can be doing on a daily basis to show their daughters what real love looks like?

Hug them! Every day. A lot. Many dads begin to shy away from hugs when they have girls whose bodies begin to mature. Bad idea. While you may have to take care with how you hug her, don’t stop! She needs them more than ever. I very rarely meet a girl who has a good relationship with her dad who is overly boy crazy. Conversely, research indicates that a fatherless girl is more at risk of dating older guys at a younger age and becoming sexual. The craving is deep in a girl whose dad is not loving her well and appropriately. Be the man to step up and hold her heart until someone worthy comes along!

Thank you, Bob and Dannah for taking time to share your thoughts and insights with my readers!

Why I recommend Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys (and the entire Secret Keeper Girl series)…

A) The fun format. Just like all Secret Keeper Girl books, Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys is written and formatted with tween girls in mind. I love the combination workbook and guidebook. I especially think this book works well for dads because it’s SHORT! Guys won’t be intimidated. Every page is filled with unique ideas to get dads and daughters talking. Plus, it’s easy to use and navigate, so you won’t get lost.

B) I just LOVED the true love test on page 63. 1 Corinthians 13 is one of my favorite Bible passages and something I use to teach my own daughters about true love, from a King’s POV.

C) Right off the bat, Date #1 had me literally laughing out loud! Mission Possible (aka Adventure Pranking 101) looked like so much fun, I was a little jealous I won’t be the one to take my daughters on this date. I liked that this date also included some rules on pranking (just to be safe). Boys are jokesters, and I think a dad and daughter practical joke date is a great way to kick-start their time together.

D) Finally, I appreciated the “Talk with Dad” section at the end of each chapter. Each one is a bit different, but all include scripture references, discussion points and a suggestion to close in prayer. I am so in love with this book (and series)! I am thrilled to have my own copy to use in a few years when my oldest begins her tween years. Bottom line, I recommend Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys. And for those single moms out there pulling double duty, there’s even a section just for you!

The Giveaway…

Thanks to Side Door Communications, I have the awesome opportunity to offer a copy of  Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys  to one blessed reader.

Enter via the Rafflecopter through Thursday, July 31st. One random winner will be chosen and announced in my August Newsletter (so be sure to sign up using the form at the bottom right-hand corner of this page).
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Disclosure:

I received a print copy of  Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys from Side Door Communications. I was not asked to write a positive review. All views and opinions expressed are solely and completely my own. I received no compensation other than a print copy of the book featured in this post, which is mine to keep or gift as I choose. This post also contains affiliate links. To learn more, please see my full policy.

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  1. Karine says

    July 4, 2014 at 7:54 am

    This book would be great to prepare my husband to talk to two little girls that will be growing up fast

    Reply
    • Sara Ella says

      July 11, 2014 at 12:28 pm

      Hi Karine:) I loved this book and even though yours is little it’s great to be prepared for the future. Good luck!

      Reply
  2. Natalie Monk says

    July 4, 2014 at 9:37 am

    Sounds like a great book!!!!

    I read the Secret Keeper: Delicate Power of Modesty book when I was 16 or so. Deeply impacted me for the better. I know this one will be just as great!

    Thanks for bringing us this post, Sara!

    Reply
    • Sara Ella says

      July 11, 2014 at 12:27 pm

      Hi, Natalie! That’s awesome to hear how that book impacted you:) Thanks for stopping by, friend!

      Reply
  3. Lis K says

    July 4, 2014 at 12:33 pm

    It would help my and my husband talk to our girls about boys. Kids get exposed to so much at a younger age now. I want to be proactive instead of reactive with my kids.

    Reply
    • Sara Ella says

      July 11, 2014 at 12:27 pm

      This is great, Lis! Good luck in the contest:)

      Reply
  4. Joyce and Norm says

    July 4, 2014 at 11:54 pm

    I agree with Karine…they do grow up fast!…especially with the messages that society puts out there for young children to see.

    Reply
    • Sara Ella says

      July 11, 2014 at 12:26 pm

      Hi, Joyce! I agree. They are too often bombarded with the world’s idea of what beauty is.

      Reply
  5. chickie brewer says

    July 7, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    This is for my granddaughter, She is not growing up too fast,but just in case.

    Reply
    • Sara Ella says

      July 11, 2014 at 12:25 pm

      Thanks for entering, Chickie! Way to think ahead 🙂

      Reply

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